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A Friend's Success Or Your Torment?

I received an email from a friend this morning that has just made my day.  It's funny how the joys of others can bring a smile to our own faces if we let it.

There are a lot of people that get really rather jealous when things are going well for others and not them.  I, on the other hand, find that my day just seems so much brighter when I hear that someone else is having a wonderful day or something wonderful happening to them no matter what my life is like at that moment.

I guess there's two ways to look at things.  One is from a viewpoint of jealousy.  The "why isn't this happening to me?" type of thought.  But, that type of viewpoint can only be described as destructive.  It allows us to wallow in a self-pitying mire which bogs us down and keeps our feet firmly planted in the rut that we're stuck in at that time.

Instead, I choose to look at someone else's happiness, success or joy as something "uplifting" for me. 

By now, you may be scratching your head, wondering what the heck I'm talking about.  However, the concept is really simple!  When someone else is experiencing joy, success or happiness then, not only do I ride on that person's happiness, or as some may call it, "living vicariously through someone else's joy", but it also gives me hope that this can happen to me as well if I let it!

Being a Psychic, I hear all kinds of really sad life stories all of the time in doing readings.  Worse than that, while doing the readings, I FEEL their pain and sorrow very heavily.  If I didn't, I wouldn't be doing my job properly.  And, while I try to guard against holding onto those feelings for too long (we have to protect ourselves or we'd be burned out quickly), I can't help but hang onto it for a short period of time afterwards.  It's during that time that I really feel the empathy for that person and I want to see them out of their pain and problems.   In other words, I'd love to see the entire world HAPPY.  Who wouldn't?

When someone writes back to me and tells me that their situations in life have improved and they are in a better place in their lives or, at the least, heading towards it, my day is made!  That news lifts me higher than a kite, no matter what else is going on in my own life.  It's confirmation or validation of what really happens in life.  Things change constantly. 

While bad happens, so does the good.  We WILL have good times again, no matter what the bad times are at the moment.  And, just as we have good times, we know that sooner or later, we will have bad times again.  What gets us through the bad times is knowing that the laws of Life will also bring us the good times again if we let it.  That's the real trick.  Letting Life bring us the good times.

So often, we tend to hold onto the bad moments or the bad that is occuring in our lives that we tend to miss the good that is happening and believe that ALL is bad in our lives and it will never change.  And, more often than not, it's that type of thinking that keeps us from getting out of our ruts of despair or problems.  In a way, it's kind of like a "self-fufilling prophecy" and we keep perpetuating the cycle of bad, not allowing ourselves to see the good in our lives.

Each and everyone of us will go through periods of time where the "bad" will feel overwhelming and never ending.  And, during those times, we will get stuck in a rut of negativity that won't allow us to see the good that can happen eventually or is already happening around us and we're just not allowing ourselves to recognize it as such.  But, each time we hear of someone else's successes, joys, happiness and "good luck" we are reminded that good things can and DO happen in all of our lives no matter what we are experiencing at that very moment.  It is THAT thought that we're reminded of in other people's joys.  It is a reminder that we will come through our own troubles with a little effort, trust, patience and time.

So, the next time that someone you know tells you of their joys, successes and happiness, don't balk at it, don't begrudge their joy by looking at your own mess in life.  Instead, look at it as a BLESSING that has been brought into your life to hear this news from them. 

You never know.  It could be your Higher Powers reminding you that good can and will happen in your life again just as it did to the person telling you their story!  It can also be your Higher Powers' SIGN to let you know that YOU are about to enter your own happiness, joy and success once again. 

Get HAPPY when you hear of other's happiness!  Yours is right around the corner!

2006-06-16 16:23:07 GMT
Comments (2 total)
I think that a lot of people just don't realize that other people's happiness can be their own IF they'll let it be. A lot of people are so wrapped up in their own problems that they just can't seem to think of anyone past themselves.

In my own case, I'm always really happy for other people when they find happiness but, when I find it, they seem to be almost uninterested in MY successes and joys. That makes it hard for me to want to be happy for them when they find happiness.

How can this be such a one-way street?
2006-06-18 02:02:18 GMT
I know what you mean. It seems that there is a lot of stress in this world, which goes back to my post a day previous to this one. It ties in because I think that a lot of us are really tied up within our own little worlds through stress and can kind of make us somewhat "self-centered" at times.

More than anything, I think that a lot of people appear rather self-absorbed or self-centered through fear. By that, I mean that we fear not having the "safety nets" that we once used to have with family and friends etc. and so we may tend to look after our own needs first, leaving little room for anyone else.

Not that it excuses that type of behaviour, but rather it gives it some credibility as to why it may happen.

Perhaps, if we did all lend each other some security as friends or family more often we might find that others will be there in ways that we need them.

It's not a one pronged solution by any means. There are all kinds of facets to this but, certainly, our lives are so full nowadays that none of us really have the emotional fortitude to be there for others as much as we should!

Thank you for bringing up that point. Nicely made.

2006-06-18 02:10:48 GMT
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